I opened the email and the impression I got from the photo was that he looked way younger than his actual age.
I then viewed his profile and it showed that he was 35. His face had a boyish look, which made me feel that I was dealing instead with a 20-something.
His profession was as a paramedic and that he was currently pursuing a graduate degree in a field related to healthcare.
It was good to read that he had other ambitions in life. To me, that translates that you’re a non-conformist and willing to take a new challenge.
Working full-time and then going to school is not easy task. I did that and made me feel proud of myself that I completed a self-established goal.
The unfortunate part of having a relationship with someone who’s a paramedic (that at times are also firefighters) is their schedule. They work every other day and, depending on your seniority, usually the night shift.
Add other activities into your schedule means no time for anything else. And if you’re in a relationship and/or have children, your agenda is totally booked.
This guy has no kids, but I just knew that he wasn’t really for me. After having guys dropping off the radar pretty much right from the start, I’m going to be very cautious of how I do anything from now on.
But, like I did before, I will try to take these experiences with a humorous approach. This way it won’t affect me and the recovery is almost instant.
It may sound contradictory that I’m allowing myself to experience certain moments when they’re bound to be short-lived.
But if I change my approach into looking what I would gain (like building my character) instead of losing (like getting mad), isn’t it worth it?
Everything that one does has a risk attached to it and if you’re not willing to take them, you’ll never take off the ground to reach where you want to go.