The New M.E. Generation

To my surprise, this guy replied a few hours later.

‘Hey, there. It’s great to hear from you. I’m glad to know that you’re living in the area. It’s surprising where life takes you.

I’m sorry about what happened to you. I never thought I would be dealing with the same situation as you. But I’ve been blessed to have a wonderful person and extraordinary woman with me.

Would love to chat with you and share our current state of affairs. Although many years have passed, the memories are always good.’

Wow, he must really have some good ones for responding so quickly, which I wonder what specifically he’s referring to.

I got curious to find out, but, at the same time, if they are positive, why do I need to go there? Why do I feel there’s something unresolved or that I perhaps need to discuss with him to give closure to?

The circumstances at the time just worked against keeping a connection (like the age difference, our individual lives, distance, no social media, etc.), so why not take this opportunity now to just re-establish something and keeping it?

Whatever it is that it’s still spinning around my emotions, I’m just really glad as to what had just happened.

Next step, getting on the phone.

It was a Friday night and Dina called me to go out.

This was usually ‘the date’ that we had on weekends. It would be a very simple ‘girls night out’ of meeting around 7pm to go to a bar/restaurant to have a drink (only one) and probably share an appetizer. The night for us would end around 10-11pm.

It will probably sound boring to you, but this is how we are. We are not the type of women who dressed up and went anywhere with the intention of picking up guys.

Our interest has always been to have a nice conversation and catch up on our lives, basically talking about our usual or current ‘state of affairs’ which was very simple.

We are both single, with a career, have no kids, young, close to our families, and a positive outlook on life. But we are missing something that we long for: to have a serious relationship with another man.

We always discussed this every time we met. We had so much positive things going for us, but there was an unfortunate, sad reality going against us.

People our age in the mid to late 30’s and early 40’s are already married or taken. The guys that become available do so later in life when they are divorced and probably have 50+ years of age.

So Dina and I were stuck in a no-win situation. We felt that there was no way to change it and that our futures, as it related to love, looked very grim.

And sitting in a bar every so often was not to help either.

We looked around and what we saw was really depressing, except this particular guy that pretty much has been staring at me the whole time I’ve been sitting here.

What’s the deal with him?

et cetera